|
Daily Dose of Reason -
Psychology & Self-Improvement
|
|
Written by Michael J. Hurd, Ph.D.
|
|
Saturday, 28 January 2012 00:00 |
|
Conclusion of yesterday's column.
Rationalization # 3:
“It’s OK to lie if the subject is nobody else’s business.”
This rationalization implies that if someone is violating your privacy, you have no other choice but to lie to them. If, in fact, you have no other choice but to lie, then so be it. Such cases do exist, and your privacy should come first.
But in most cases you have other choices. You can simply say,
|
|
Read more... [The Psychology of Honesty (Part 3 of 3)]
|
|
|
Daily Dose of Reason -
Psychology & Self-Improvement
|
|
Written by Michael J. Hurd, Ph.D.
|
|
Friday, 27 January 2012 00:00 |
|
Continued from yesterday’s column.
It’s not enough to ask people, intellectually, if they subscribe to these rationalizations or not. They might say “no,” they sincerely don’t agree with these statements. Yet they could still feel something different on the emotional level, and practice something different on the behavioral level. If someone tells you that, no, she does not believe lying is right, then you can relax somewhat; but you still need to recognize that human beings have free will and in any given moment of their lives are free to reject something they consider a moral principle.
If someone tells you that “yes,” intellectually he does agree with any of the above statements, then consider yourself forewarned. Such a person might lie to you at any time. If you don’t want a husband who cheats, or if you don’t want a business partner who will steal from you, then spend some time getting to know how he thinks and what he
|
|
Read more... [The Psychology of Honesty (Part 2 of 3)]
|
|
Daily Dose of Reason -
Psychology & Self-Improvement
|
|
Written by Michael J. Hurd, Ph.D.
|
|
Thursday, 26 January 2012 00:00 |
|
There are two types of liars.
The first type does not feel comfortable with lying. He feels guilty for betraying other people with his lie. He also feels awkward because lying complicates his life and his mind. He has to remember who knows about the falsehood and who does not. He must keep two separate lists in his mind at all times: one for the actual facts, the other for the “facts” he has created.
The second type of liar is much more sophisticated—and dangerous. He believes his own lies. He convinces himself that the “alternate reality” he creates with his lies actually exists. He is the more persuasive, more “effective” type of liar. He can fool loved ones, business associates, juries—even millions.
The persuasive liar rationalizes
|
|
Read more... [The Psychology of Honesty (Part 1 of 3)]
|
|
Daily Dose of Reason -
Quotations
|
|
Written by Michael J. Hurd, Ph.D.
|
|
Wednesday, 25 January 2012 00:00 |
|
A nation of sheep breeds a government of wolves.
-- Judge Andrew Paolo Napolitano |
|
|
<< Start < Prev 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Next > End >>
|
|
Page 1 of 359 |