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The Destruction of "Enabling"

Daily Dose of Reason - Ethics
  
Monday, 30 January 2012 00:00

Dear Dr. Hurd: If you don't mind suggestions on articles, have you ever written one on the evils of "enabling"? That is, the phenomenon where a person knows that what someone else is doing is wrong, sometimes morally, but will conduct themselves in a way that allows that person to continue with their bad behavior.

QA2For instance, I've dealt with people who have psychological problems that sometimes move them to lash out or otherwise act in unacceptable manners, and the days following the outbreak they pretend nothing ever happened. Worse yet, they're aided by their victims in that they too pretend nothing ever happened and will even pretend that they like and are still fond of the person, despite the fact they openly detest them out of their sight.

I think commenting on this topic would be both good political commentary and self-help advice. I've been thinking about your article that muses that some of our statist problems today may be due to people trying to silence "internal noise," in that they're trying to deal with their own problems by externalizing them and forcing others to engage in their demanded modes of behavior.

Enabling may be one of the keys to all the evils in this world, as a sub-variant to Ayn Rand's term of "The Sanction of the Victim." If people keep pretending obscene and immoral people are alright and worth dealing with, and actually help them in their bad ways, then they're assisting in promoting destruction in this world, whether it be the destruction of happiness in relationships or people's rights under the government. 

 

Dr. Hurd's reply: "Enabling" is actually a value-free term. It refers to
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The 46 Percent

Daily Dose of Reason - Politics & Government
  
Sunday, 29 January 2012 00:00

government-moneyA flat income tax -- say, 15 percent for all Americans -- is a brilliant idea. Right?

No way. The flat tax proposal, in the economy as we know it, evades two very, very important facts. No proposal which evades relevant facts can -- or should -- win.

First of all, according to all the numbers available, half of Americans
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The Psychology of Honesty (Part 3 of 3)

Daily Dose of Reason - Psychology & Self-Improvement
  
Saturday, 28 January 2012 00:00

thinkerConclusion of yesterday's column.

Rationalization # 3:

“It’s OK to lie if the subject is nobody else’s business.”

This rationalization implies that if someone is violating your privacy, you have no other choice but to lie to them. If, in fact, you have no other choice but to lie, then so be it. Such cases do exist, and your privacy should come first.

But in most cases you have other choices. You can simply say,
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The Psychology of Honesty (Part 2 of 3)

Daily Dose of Reason - Psychology & Self-Improvement
  
Friday, 27 January 2012 00:00

questionContinued from yesterday’s column.

It’s not enough to ask people, intellectually, if they subscribe to these rationalizations or not. They might say “no,” they sincerely don’t agree with these statements. Yet they could still feel something different on the emotional level, and practice something different on the behavioral level. If someone tells you that, no, she does not believe lying is right, then you can relax somewhat; but you still need to recognize that human beings have free will and in any given moment of their lives are free to reject something they consider a moral principle.

If someone tells you that “yes,” intellectually he does agree with any of the above statements, then consider yourself forewarned. Such a person might lie to you at any time. If you don’t want a husband who cheats, or if you don’t want a business partner who will steal from you, then spend some time getting to know how he thinks and what he
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