Reasons people don’t find a romantic partner, husband, wife, spouse, whatever? Here are several:

1) Not looking persistently enough. This means always being on the lookout, and always “following a lead.” Yes, it can include dating services, but it also means pursuing anyone, anywhere at any time you find interesting—to the degree that it's appropriate and that they’ll allow, of course. I don't mean to suggest obsessing on finding someone at the expense of all else. I do mean always having it in the back of your mind, and being ready to pursue someone who unexpectedly pops up in your life, or otherwise shows interest.

2) Irrational fear of rejection. In a romantic context, rejection is the norm. Most people you like will not like you back, in a romantic way, or will already be with someone. Also, most people who like you, you will not like back—at least in a romantic way. Love is all about two people who like each other a certain way finding each other at the right time. It's a tall order! It will be the exceptional case—for you or absolutely anyone—to find someone who loves you back the same way you love them, and at the right time. It’s an always unlikely but ultimately (over the course of one's life) probable occurrence—with persistence and with continued self-improvement, something you’d presumably be doing for yourself anyway.

3) Wasting time and energy on people or activities that take away from the energy and motivation required to engage in the above. Toxic people take away disproportionately from the sense of serenity and inner happiness required to attract a good partner. (They take it away only because you let them.) The best time to attract a good partner is when you are maximally engaged in, and happy about, your career, your interests, and your friendships. This general state of happiness creates a “glow” that appeals to most others and gives you more choices. Someone who meets you obviously wants you to be single, and available. But they also want you otherwise happy.

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When a Republican expands the role of government over the economy, it's considered ill-advised and stupid (properly so). When a liberal Democrat President does the same thing in principle, only more expansive (and expensive) in scope, it's called noble and economic. At least, that's how it was until Obama came along. Although there are liberal Democrats who will defend him to the end, Obama has already (less than two years in office) lost the great majority of Independent voters who put him in office. The real question is this: Are Republicans prepared to reverse course not just on Obama's policies, but most of the policies of their own party? Are they prepared to begin privatization of Medicare and Social Security, not just because those programs were wrong in the first place, but because they WILL be going bankrupt and the bankruptcy must be faced? Are they prepared not only to cut taxes below even the Bush or Reagan-era levels, but to cut spending even more dramatically? I more than doubt it. But this is all that can save us.

For years I have been saying we need a second party, not a third party. Are Republicans up to the job? Nothing in their actions or even words to date suggests so. But sometimes the times "make the man" as the old saying goes, and perhaps the times will "make a party" -- or a movement -- as well. By this I mean that the times must get so bad -- and believe me, things are getting bad -- that people must adapt rational ideas in order to survive and, once again, thrive. America is used to thriving, not just surviving. We haven't thrived for awhile, and now people are even starting to wonder about long-term survival, for themselves and their children. Most think of Obama as their leader. I certainly don't, but most still do. Obama greets them not with a Reaganesque smile, or even an FDR-like quirky smirk, but a condescending and unnerving air of arrogance. Arrogance, most people sense, is the void where a great mind and strong character ought to have been. Arrogance is the emotion of fear. Americans: Your supreme leader is afraid. This is not a good thing.

Wait till things get rougher, and you'll find out what Obama is -- and isn't -- made of. But we have to start moving beyond Obama. In time, he'll be gone. (If he doesn't go in 2012, and if he's not severely undercut in 2010, then we're quite possibly finished). The most pressing and ultimately important issue is: What will replace him? All the Republicans I know, talk to, read about and learn of are nothing more than Democrat-lite. Some of them are even Obama-lite. They think people like Scott Brown, the Senator from Massachusetts who supports much of what Obama is doing (rather than all of what he's doing) will save us. Or they think that Sarah Palin, who bashed "big business" and capitalism along with John McCain back in 2008, can somehow steal Obama's thunder this time. (Good luck). Other Republicans think religion will save us. They might as well run on a platform of prayer. This is not the answer to a sane and rational nation, either. What is the answer? Reason, freedom, individual rights -- specifically, the restoration and reassertion of these things, including all that this implies. I look around and all I see are (1) insane Democrats and (2) helpless Republicans who say principles, even good ones, are "too ideological" or "too extreme." OK then. What's your answer, Republicans? I'm listening. But I don't hear a thing.

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All I ask from others is their own self-interest. I want them to be rational and self-interested when they drive on the highway, so they don't hurt me or another. I want them to pay their bills and be productive, so they don't drag down society morally and psychologically (as well as economically, in a welfare state). I want them to develop all their talents and skills, being as fulfilled as they possibly can be, so that the best and brightest among them will create and produce things of great value to me. I want to live in a culture where creativity and productivity rule, even when it doesn't always affect me directly. I don't want others (especially strangers) to do anything for me. All I want is for them to live their own lives in freedom and with self-responsible attention to their own needs, requirements, wants and desires. I don't want to be forced to finance their ambitions and would never dream of asking anyone to be forced to finance mine. Self-interest means self-responsibility. The rest will follow.

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