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Daily Dose of Reason -
Psychology & Self-Improvement
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Written by Michael J. Hurd, Ph.D.
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Tuesday, 20 December 2011 00:00 |
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Everybody assumes that forgiveness is good, whether the person is sorry or not, and regardless of what the person has done. "Turn the other cheek," they preach. What they fail to consider is that once you forgive away something bad, you're communicating that it's not really all that bad. You have no business expecting NOT to see the bad behavior again. Why should the person stop? He knows, deep down, that he'll be forgiven anyway.
Everybody assumes that selfishness and self-interest are bad. What they fail to consider is how worthless
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Read more... [Look Deeper than Prozac]
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Daily Dose of Reason -
Psychology & Self-Improvement
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Written by Michael J. Hurd, Ph.D.
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Sunday, 18 December 2011 00:00 |
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Dr. Hurd wrote the following in an article entitled, "Charlie Sheen: Madness Manifest":
"[Charlie] Sheen is obviously some kind of nihilistic playboy who for whatever reasons now feels free to be his true self, to rant and rage as he has never done before, but has probably always wanted to do. He’s no longer encumbered by the need to distinguish between theater and actor, fantasy and reality.
People like Charlie Sheen and Brittany Spears (and don’t forget Lindsay Lohan) are professional performers. They’re much more likely to be psychological exhibitionists than nonperformers. Although being irrational does not go with the territory of being a professional performer, a certain level of exhibitionism probably does. Exhibitionism refers to the need to display or play out issues in a public domain that would normally be personal. When done rationally, performance by a talented actor can be one of the greatest human talents to behold. In an unhealthy performer, such as Charlie Sheen, the individual loses touch with the difference between theatre and reality. A rational performer gets into the mindset required to be the person he’s portraying, but he can also make the switch back to reality because the mental connection was never broken. For whatever personal reasons, some performers lose sight of that and all hell breaks loose."
A Hostile Reader’s Response: “I’m a Clinical Psychologist in NYC and find your comments
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Read more... [Psychology Does Messed Up Celebrities No Favors]
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Daily Dose of Reason -
Psychology & Self-Improvement
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Written by Michael J. Hurd, Ph.D.
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Saturday, 17 December 2011 00:00 |
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Empowerment consists of providing clients with the psychological tools to take charge of their lives as quickly as possible. It avoids the false alternative of silence vs. advice giving. The classic Freudian therapist says little to his client. On the other hand, Dear Abby-style advice givers dispense their brand of “counseling” with reckless simplicity. Good therapy does not fall into either of these traps. The good therapist operates on the premise that human reason is the best method for solving emotional problems, and actively helps his or her clients to better use this capacity.
The advice giver, though usually well intentioned, seeks to do the reasoning for the client. The silent therapist, on the other hand, encourages
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Read more... [Is Bad Therapy Worse Than None? You Bet It Is]
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Daily Dose of Reason -
Psychology & Self-Improvement
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Written by Michael J. Hurd, Ph.D.
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Wednesday, 14 December 2011 00:00 |
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People who haven’t been in psychotherapy often ask: “What does a psychotherapist do? What happens in psychotherapy?
The answer to this question is
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Read more... [The Perils of "Victim Think]
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Daily Dose of Reason -
Psychology & Self-Improvement
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Written by Michael J. Hurd, Ph.D.
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Tuesday, 13 December 2011 00:00 |
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The best way to raise financially responsible children is to teach them cause and effect.
This means giving them logical consequences and explanations for your decisions. Give them choices when you can. When possible, let them in on your economic decisions (which affect them personally). For example, “We can go to Hawaii instead of
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Read more... [How to Keep Your Kids From Growing Up Brats]
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