A Cornell University study asks, “Why do teens do stupid things?” This same study also purports to answer that question.

Why do most people falsely believe that addiction is a disease? Are they all simply lazy and dishonest? No. While some are, I maintain that most are not. The confusion and error is created, in large part, by superficial similarities between addiction and actual diseases. 

Back in the 1970s, social psychologist Stanley Milgram published a study that focused on the psychology of obedience. In the study, volunteers were asked to administer shocks to “learners” in an experiment.

You hear about this syndrome of either gender trying to change something (or a lot of things) about their partner (or even their friend). These attitudes and behaviors show a lack of respect. Deep down, the spouse who’s acting this way may truly respect his or her partner, but the problem is that “change seeking” and excessive demands for compromise convey a lack of respect, and even lack of love. For example, “She’s always getting on me about this or that. Yet she knew about these behaviors from the time we first met. What gives?”